A year ago, I registered my Limited Company. I had an idyllic view of modern day business- I thought that I would be posting blogs, engaging with social media etc, maybe even have a YouTube channel (still not that brave!). All these things that I see other organisers achieving on a daily basis, but as I always tell others- it’s not about what others are doing, do what is good for you.
I could of never anticipated how quickly things would take off and rate in which my client base is growing. It certainly hasn’t been plain sailing and I have learned a lot along the way. It doesn’t matter how organised or prepared we think we are, life can often throw that unexpected curve ball and all of our plans and goals go out the window.
I am so happy that I started this journey and even happier that I made it my full time job in April of this year. It was a scary step, but one I am so glad I took. The freedom of having my own business is something I found hard to adapt to at first- When you work office hours for so long, your body clock seems to naturally adapt to ‘work mode’. I loved my job, but it was definitely time to step out of my comfort zone. I am slowly getting used to the fact that I can choose when and for how long I work and that I am my own boss.
Not all of my experiences in the last year are totally work related, but sometimes when things happen, they remind us of why it is important to do what we love, so here are some of the things that I need to often remind myself of..........
One harsh reality that I faced this last few of months is the fact that life really is too short. Anything can happen and none of us can guarantee that we will see tomorrow. I lost my Step Father who had been more like a real Father for last 28 years. The shock that we experience after a sudden loss is hard enough, but when no plans have been discussed and nothing is in order, it makes it so much harder for those left behind:
Sometimes we have to accept that people are happy with how things are. Even if we don’t agree with how they are living, we have to accept that it is their choice (in life and in work). Often I will be contacted by family members who are at the end of their tether. Don’t be offended if a friend of family member doesn’t want to work on something with you, sometimes pride can come over as stubbornness or rudeness, but most of the time, they are just embarrassed.
I would like to be able to help everyone who needs to be helped, but realistically I can’t afford to work for free ☹ It can be really hard to get people into services when they fall into that ‘grey area’ and there is no funding or resource available. I do wish that I could win enough to pay my bills and not have to worry if clients can't afford to pay for the help. If I can’t help then I do always try and find someone who can
I started to feel guilty about having a morning off from physical work to do some admin or catch up on a few things in in my own house. I have to keep reminding myself that this is ok and I need to practice what I preach. When life is not organised, I get stressed. I am not immune to the chaos of family life.
I have come close to burnout when I am trying to fit too much in my diary due to fear of letting people down. Again, I would advise anyone against this in order to remain well (I have needed to have a word with myself). To help others, you need to be physically and mentally well, otherwise you’re not helping anyone.
It’s easy to work too much and to get our priorities in a muddle. Make the time, book the table, drink the wine, go for the walk, watch the movie…..
People presume that you know absolutely everything about running a business because you have one. That couldn’t be further from the truth for me. Ok, I could get by on the basics, but without the support of family, friends, mentoring & business networking, I would have probably gone mad.